Posted on November 26, 2014 by Bradley

We always want to represent our best selves to the new people we meet and date. Most people spend more time picking out a picture for their profile rather than thinking about what they should or should not be putting on their online profile. Creating a good profile, though, is the difference between success and frustration. How can you know what is too much or too little? Here are a few guidelines.

Always be truthful about your appearance and personal representations. Do not put in your profile that you have done things you haven’t done or misrepresent your physical self. You wouldn’t want someone to mislead you, after all. Besides, if you end up meeting in person, those kinds of little while lies will rapidly be uncovered. You can’t start a good relationship based on misrepresentations, even small ones.

Do not share information that reveals your location. It is fine to indicate your city or even where you go to school, but being more specific than that can create some problems. For one thing, we are still not entirely free from online predators or identity thieves. Don’t give anyone enough information to impersonate or to find you in person if they want to. This can even include information such as where you work, so think about what you’re posting.

Do share your interests. People want to know what makes you who you are, so feel free to share your interests and hobbies. If you have traveled or had an interesting experience, that is good information for people to use to get to know how you think and what your interests are.

Don’t share your demands. While you want to meet the love of your life, you don’t want to create a laundry list of demands for this new person. This is especially true about listing desired salary ranges or physical features. Not only is that a complete turn off, but you could be missing out on great people who may not have everything on your list – but are perfect for you nonetheless. It is fine to list things you are interested in doing with a partner. But leave off the list of demands for the other person.

Don’t overshare. If you want to start a family, that’s a private conversation for your partner – not between you and the entire Internet. Edit your profile and take out what is a private matter between you and potential loves.

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